Singles at Hedonism II

Sep 22

Hedonism II is a magical place in Negril, Jamaica. It’s an all-inclusive resort that encourages its guests to indulge in their most hedonistic pleasures. There are many Facebook groups that talk about the wild ways of Hedo (as we regulars call it). One of the most common questions that comes up from people looking to sow their wild oats is about singles. There are many nude and lifestyle friendly resorts around the world, but one of the problems for us singles is that they are couples only. Not like I couldn’t ask some random lady or gent to join me at one of those places, but that’s a whole other conversation for another post. Hedo is friendly to couples, singles, throuples, and more. In fact, typically, if you are one of the women in a male-female-female room, you get quite the discount. But for now, let’s focus on singles.

Single Women

There is a double standard. It isn’t a rule set by the resort, but more of a societal thing. A single woman traveling to a clothing optional, sexually charged, party mecca is celebrated. In fact, depending on your sexual preferences, you may even earn the title of Unicorn. The mythical Unicorn tends to be a single woman in search of adventures with men, women, and/or couples. She is unattached and is free to do whatever and whomever she likes. She is in control of her plans and her own situation. She has the power. Now, financially speaking, please know that Hedo does charge 150% for a single in any of their rooms. Honestly, every time I have gone so far, I have stayed in a room by myself, and it was worth every penny. I’m the type of person that likes to balance my wild, crazy nights with calm, quiet mornings. Not that you couldn’t do that in a variety of places around the resort, but I like to have my own space.

Single ladies, I know this all sounds so fabulous and wonderful, but there is a downside to traveling solo. As all women know, we are almost always on guard for our personal safety. While Hedo is a relatively safe place to be, there is always the possibility of an unsafe situation anywhere. Before going to Hedo for the first time, I did a lot of research. The conclusion I came to was that I wanted to be part of a group that was staying at the resort. I found this recommendation online, and I have now experienced it, and I can say this was the best choice I could have made.

I looked at the Hedonism II website to see what groups would be visiting in the time frame I wanted to travel. I sorted through those groups by their description to see which group fit me best. Young, Wild, and Sexy – not quite young enough. These hips have made babies. BDSM Group – probably too intense for a first time. I narrowed the choices down and contacted the group leader of the one I was interested in. We had the most delightful conversation. The group consisted of people in my age group and mostly from far away from where I lived. I didn’t want to run into anyone I knew on my first visit time getting naked in public.

I feel so fortunate to have found a group that years later are still my friends. Having this group of people to hang out with helped with many parts of the trip. Firstly, the ride from the airport to the resort is about 90 minutes long. When you are traveling with a group, you can coordinate that transfer with others and not have to make the 90-minute journey alone. I’ve never had a problem with any of the drivers, but I also knew that my trip was documented, and people expected me to arrive at a particular time.

Secondly, this group acted as my protectors through the week. In one instance, there was a particularly creepy man approaching and my new friends built a wall of people so he couldn’t get near me in the pool. The creepy man was eventually asked to leave the resort.

Something to keep in mind is that the resort does allow day passes. Meaning that anyone in town, locals or tourists, can purchase a pass for the day to enjoy all the resort has to offer. This is lovely if you would like to try the resort without the full commitment, however, it does allow for some patrons that maybe aren’t as vested in the safe, anonymous, and consent-filled atmosphere that the regulars know and love. I was very happy to have a group watching my back at the foam party one time. We decided as a group to move on from the foam party to the nude pool. I had left my shoes near a palm tree and when I went to retrieve them, I was basically blocked by a few day pass visitors. It was uncomfortable and unwelcome, so I called out to my friends who quickly backtracked to retrieve me.

Single Men

It is my observation that single men tend to have a different experience. As I mentioned, there is a double standard, and that is not fair, but it is real. While single women are celebrated and practically worshipped, single men tend to get a lot more suspicious side eye. Again, it’s not fair at all for two people to have the same goals of fun and hedonistic pleasure, but because one has a penis, his motives may be questioned. However, my suggestion for single men is the same as for single women – find a group. Picture a group of men and women drinking in the pool, laughing at jokes and stories, and occasionally meeting others for fun versus a guy drinking alone, watching the fun happening. And maybe that’s your thing – voyeurism. If that’s the case, great, you are in the right place. However, if your goal is to interact with others, you should start off by interacting with others. I know it’s a catch-22, but again, society is weird that way. And maybe you are the kind of guy that can walk into a space, entertain the crowd, and become one of the gang right then and there. But for the shyer, more trepidatious fellows, doing a meet and greet at the start of the trip to have some familiar faces to talk to later in the nude pool is priceless.

CONSENT! I put this in capital letters with an exclamation point because consent is vital. Even in this sexually charged environment where it seems that anything goes, there are conversations being had about what “anything” is. There are few turn-offs bigger than a guy touching or doing things he doesn’t have permission to do. I once walked up to the bar in the nude pool to order a drink. A guy was sitting on one of the underwater barstools. I had to squeeze between him and the pillar to get my order to the bartender. As I was standing there, his hand grazed my butt. I didn’t react because it may have been an accident and it didn’t seem like a big deal. But then his hand traveled around to touch my pussy. Oh hell, no! I grabbed his hand and pushed it away and then alerted my friends to his unsolicited advances. So not only did he not get any connection with me, but I’m pretty sure word spread that he was a creep thus leading to zero other connections. The crazy thing is, if he had just asked to touch my butt or even my pussy, he may have gotten permission. Silence is golden in a movie theater, not in a nude pool full of horny adults.

Single Women and Men

One other reason to go with a group is that typically, there are single men and women in the group. There are a few times when a guy needs a lady by his side, namely if he wants to enter the nighttime playroom. Single men are not allowed to enter solo. It’s also nice to have a buddy to sit next to if you are at one of the eateries with even numbered seating. The couples do tend to sit together for dinner which can leave a single as the odd person out. It’s rare, but sometimes is nice to have a resort partner for those occasions.